It's kind of really strange...?

I have tons of stupid fears... like water, any bug, people touching me (not just sexually), being tied down, small spaces, sleeping, needles, and having an STD.





they completely ruin my life. i'm not emo... i'm an adult. And I've tried therapy, meds, putting myself in some of those situations. Nothing helps. Sometimes I want to die... because living in complete fear isn't really living at all. I have sedatives that work. but I know they are extremely addictive and take them as little as possible





i get panic attacks, badly. sometimes I faint because I cant breathe.


I'll wake up screaming or paralysed.





It's hard not getting sleep because every little thing or noise is something out to kill me.


I've ruined relationships because i wont let anyone touch me. And if someone tells me they have an STD... even if there is no way we would sleep together, i will avoid them.


I had to get stitches and the only way it happened was giving me a tranquilizer and putting me in 5 pt. restraints





HELP!

It's kind of really strange...?
Meds only supress symptoms but you can feel perfect peace. Everyone has fears to different degrees but with them, you can never be happy. But people can do something so that every month, they become more relaxed than ever before.





See site below on being really happy. Then you can see page on depression and on that page is link to page on anxiety. Depression and anxiety usually go together. Even in your darkest hour, I will not abandon you.
Reply:Overcome your fears:


Fear keeps us in the background. It convinces us we can never accomplish our dreams, tells us to keep quiet, and separates us from the ones we love. Fear has an unparalleled ability to freeze us in our tracks, and limit what we are willing to try. Fear makes us lead a smaller life.





The things that we are afraid of may be different, but our reactions to fear are usually the same – our palms sweat, our mouths get dry, our stomachs churn -- and we would do anything, make any sacrifice, just to make it go away. How many times have you turned away from an opportunity or even a relationship because you were too afraid to go for it?





Fear is not a bad thing. It exists for our protection as an early warning signal. But there is a big difference between the healthy fear that tells us to step away from the edge of a cliff and a constant fear that keeps us from living our life. Dr. Henry Cloud, counselor and author, in his article "Overcoming Fear," recommends several active steps we can take to battle the fear that controls us – connecting with others, creating structure, learning relaxation techniques and developing a spiritual life and face your fears. Fortunately for us, there are practical ways to take the doctor's advice.





1. Connecting with others. All fears, no matter how big or small are worse when we face them alone. Find a good friend to share your fears with. We tend to resist admitting our fears because we are afraid that the person will think less of us, that they will laugh or make things worse. Find someone you can trust, possibly counselor, maybe a relative or trusted friend and share what's bothering you. They may be able to help you see what you're afraid of in a new light and they will be there to stand by you and encourage you as you take steps to face your fears.


2. Create Structure. If it's a new situation that is causing your worries, Dr. Cloud recommends building structure into your schedule to create safety. If you exercise, exercise at the same time every day, arrange to meet a friend for coffee at the same time each week. Structure gives us a sense of security because we know what to expect. There is comfort in the familiar. If you take control of what you can, it will give you a good starting place from which to face the things you can't control.


3. Learn relaxation techniques. Fear, left to grow can lead to some serious health problems. If your fears are having a physical effect on health, learning some relaxation techniques may help you to be physically ready to face the challenge ahead. There are numerous resources online on this subject as well as a wealth of information at the library. Find the technique that works for you.


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Develop a spiritual life. In times of crisis, spiritual truths that are consistent in any circumstances are a great comfort. They give us safety and familiarity and, more importantly, they give us a reason to hope. If you do not have a spiritual life or faith consider talking to a pastor or read the Bible. The book of Psalms in particular speaks to people that are facing difficulties. Read some of the Lifestories on this site and learn how other women found faith in the midst of difficult times.


5. Face your fears. Finally, the last step is to actually face your fears. First, it is important to note that some fears are healthy and some situations should be avoided for your own personal safety. There are no hero points awarded for going into a personally threatening situation. However, if the threat is more mental than physical, actually doing the thing you're afraid of can be the best antidote of all. Don't forget that it is often easiest to do this in steps. If your biggest fear is public speaking (and it is for the majority of us) don't offer to address the room at the next stock holder's meeting, but do try something smaller. Consider leading your next departmental meeting, or give a small talk at your next group meeting, something with a small audience and familiar faces, then work your way up from there. Facing your fears is a process.
Reply:WOW! you are scared of everything. I once took care of an 11 year old boy who moved from NYC to the country in the midwest. He was so scared of any insect that we started a bug collection. All of the children in my care got involved in catching and preserving and studying about them in books that his fear disappeared.





Fear only exists in our minds. Some fears are good, like instincts. I have slowly learned to face my fears for the thing I fear the most is myself and my thinking. I stay away from alcohol, drugs and caffine. When I think a panic attack is coming on, I sometimes turn on some great dancing music and dance till I can breathe easy again. Dancing and singing help me stretch my chest muscles and chill out. Good Luck
Reply:Anxiety is the problem and some of the things you have mentioned are normal. STD everyone fears that. As far a sleep get a box fan and turn it on to stop the sounds in the night. You also have a detachment problem. People touch others and this is not harmful. No one in ther right mind would sleep with someone who has an STD. Nothing will really help you until you face these things in you mind. This takes self confidence and will power. Of all the things you fear here you set safely chatting and you have lived up to this point.





You can overcome
Reply:wow. all i can say is to ask God to give strenght and wisdom. If that isn't your kind of thing then go to that place where nothing can harm you. It's always with you. It's called your mind. You letting yourself be afraid allows for those things to control your life. A little fear is good but you're talking about is a phoebia. Do you know the source of your fear? Maybe that is where you can start to attack your fears.
Reply:Well what can we do these are only words.. You need some deep mental help and learn how to cope physically with people, also dont kill yourself play warcraft all day or Halo 3 :)

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