What on earth is wrong? This thing with Friends and all? Advice please!!?

Hi


I am generally an introvert. In the past I never really had any friends (no one to hang out with after class or share feelings with), but I just used to say 'hi' 'bye' and tag along.


Now, I'm becoming more extroverted, and am really opening up (im in university now). I am a very friendly guy. When I meet new people, all goes well, until they ask stuff like "what do you do in your spare time" and then "dont you have any friends?"


I tell them "not really". then they'll be like "you're kidding/oh come on whats wrong with you?/not even one?" Then I might say "well i guess i have a few but i'm not close to anyone". Then some might even bother to ask who they are or how many. Most of the people then just stop talking, and start all the fake smiles and touch-me-not behaviour.


Then I dont know what to say. I don't know what to do. It seems this problem will never be solved until I really find myself a trustworthy group of friends. I get this problem where ever i go-classes, clubs etc.

What on earth is wrong? This thing with Friends and all? Advice please!!?
Sharing your hobbies does no harm maybe you can find few people who share the same interests and hobbies with you. When they try to bug you about friends I agree with Riven Liether be vague. Tell them you have few friends but right now you are too busy to hang around with them. If they insist you can close the subject with a joke or something: "Why?Do want to give me a job? Do you want my CV too?" (I don't know if they laugh but worth to try I think)


Introvert people may scare other ones since they do not know "everything" about them.
Reply:Well, tell them that you had friends in HS. If they want to know who give them the names of a couple of people you tagged along with.


You must have some kind of hobby or some other thing that you like. If it is reading then talk about the last book you read. Maybe a movie you went to see. You could even talk about what you like to do with your computer.
Reply:Well, you can easily answer the question of what you do in your spare time without mentioning friends. But if the subject of friends (or your lack thereof) comes up, just say, "I have a few friends that I like to hang out with now and then, but I'm busy a lot." Be deliberately vague, and leave it at that. If they persist, change the subject, ignore them, or make up an excuse to leave.





It really just goes to show how immature these people are if they persist in bugging you about your personal life. Who are they to judge? It's none of their business in the first place.