I'm 22 and work with this guy. He has a gf, but he's always flirting and coming onto me, what should I do?

We've only worked for about a month together. We always flirt, make sexual innuendos and he's always touching me (not inappropriately, but always leaning against me, touching my hands, arms). He has been with his gf for 3 yrs, but one of the guys I worked with was talking to him about if they're going to get engaged and I overheard him say probably not, I don't think I want to marry her, I want to get married someday but I don't think to her (he's in his mid-20s). Last night he invited me and my friend out with two of his friends. He didn't mind when we touched, he hugged me, made me feel his butt, and continued with the sexual innuendos, and made references to my boobs (which I'm fine with bc I was being just as bad back to him). I don't think they're relationship is going well, everyone that knows his girlfriend is like she's a ***** and doesn't treat him well. I wouldn't do anything with him while he's still with her, but do you think that maybe he could like me?

I'm 22 and work with this guy. He has a gf, but he's always flirting and coming onto me, what should I do?
Tell em straight up...





You leave that ***** and get with me honey cuz you ain't gonna get nothing bettah than this...





haha I bet it would work.
Reply:Actually, you are being molested at work, and this creep is not worth it. He's not flirting, it's called sexual harrassment.


You need to go to your boss right away and report his behavior - make sure this gets down on paper and in his file.


You also need to clean up your act. This will not look good for you at work. Giving it back to him is a defense that women commonly use, but it always looks worse for them, than for him (guys always get a pass in the sexual arena). It's not fair, but it is really important to know that, and keep your act on the up and up.


But it is fine to go to your boss and say this guy is doing x, y and z. I haven't handled it well, but it makes me uncomfortable and I want it to stop.


Frankly, I don't know why I'm telling you this, since you probably won't listen - you evidently think a guy who has a girlfriend, is obviously on the hunt, and treats the women he works with like trash is attractive. But still, that's my recommendation.


Oh, and DON'T blame his girlfriend. If you had a boyfriend who treated you like that, you'd be bitchy, too. At the rate you're going, you will have her life in short order anyway. When it happens to you, remember that you liked it when it wasn't happening to you.
Reply:If he is going to cheat on her with you, then he is going to cheat on you with someone else. What difference does it make if he likes you and wants to date you. Even if you win him over from his current girlfriend, you won't be able to trust him. And that's what good relationships are built on - trust.
Reply:Oral!
Reply:sure, he could like you... but as you said, he still has a GF.





He surely wants to get into your pants because of all the sexual references and touching.





He might not want to jump ship with his GF until he has his foot in another boat, so he's testing the waters with you.





Just ask him what his intentions are because you know he has a GF.
Reply:tell him to back off from you or you will tell his gf that hes cheating on her. or just immediately tell the gf.
Reply:Be real with him for a mintue. Just ask him straight up. Say this if you need to. "Hey, dude, let me ask you something... all this flirting that we do... it has to mean something.... are you having trouble with your gf? Let's talk about it and just be serious for a minute."