How can i make him see?

There are always these answers like "put your foot down" or "leave the sorry b%$#^%d!" or even "just sit down and have a heart to heart with them" but unfortunately for some people nothing really works. My boyfriend won't talk about things, kiss, hold hands, hug, basically just let me love him. I mean i can't even talk to him about my new job and i am really excited about it. It's like nothing that has to do with me matters to him and he doesn't want to be bothered. He has always been this way and i know i shouldn't take this personally but i can't imagine living the rest of my life this way. i am a very affectionate person and he has a 30 ft wall that i will never get through. i know alot of answers will be to just pack up and leave, but we have a son and he is the only father that my daughter knows. How do i make him understand that this behavior is unacceptable and get him to open up and change his touch-me-not ways. ONLY serious answers please.





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How can i make him see?
It is going to take something more drastic to make him understand or for you to see if he really has any feeling for you or not. One thing to remember, if he has always been self absorbed and selfish, it most likely will not change and usually it get worse after time. If you are not married, I think the only way to get him to see you are serious and that you do not intend to live this way,is to move out. Go stay with a friend or family till you can get on your feet. Also stop and think if you want your child to be raised in this type of environment!?! If it is a girl, she will grow thinking that this is how women should treated. If you have a son then he will grow up not knowing how to have a proper relationship with a women and will always treat women with disrespect.


It is always hard to make a change, but one defiantly needs


to be made. You need to have some respect for your self. Not only for you but for your child too. Your child needs to see their mother can and will stand up for her self so as they get older they also will do the same. Do not sell yourself short.


If you are married I think you both need to go to counseling (which I am sure he wont) or, you will still need to move out to make things right for you and your child. If he loves you he will, at that time maybe wake up and make some changes, if not then you do not move back. It is wonderful having a man that respects you and can show affection. I have had both and even my teenagers and adult children see the difference. It is as important for the children as it is for you. Good Luck, Be strong and God Bless
Reply:You have known he was like this for a long time. since you didn't deal with it in the beginning of your relationship when you first noticed the "wall" - you can't expect him to change now. You don't have the right to call it "unacceptable". If it truly was, then it should have been something you worked on from the get go - before you had a child with him.





You can ask him if he will go into counseling with you and maybe the therapist can help the two of you break down the "wall" you say is there - but you can't sit here and place all the blame for your unhappiness soley on his shoulders.





If he won't go to counseling - you have a big decision to make - accept that he is opposite of you in many ways when it comes to communication %26amp; affection - or move on, regardless if you have a child together.