Why does he love me and then ignore me?

I'm so confused. There's this guy that I've been good friends with for a long time. He always was very sweet to me; always telling me how beautiful I looked, spending time with me, giving me hugs, and just being an all around good guy. Then not too long ago he moved the relationship further. We snuggled at movies, he called me often, always was touching me (not in an inappropriate way)and huggging me, he would kiss me on the forehead, and he even told me he loved me. But at the time we had not labeled what our relationship was and I wasn't sure I wanted to, I was happy and he seemed to be too. This went on 4 about a month. He was never ashamed to act this way around our friends, but then just recently he has seemed 2 become very distant. The horrible thing is I DONT KNOW WHY! I want 2 talk 2 him about it but I'm afraid I might scare him. I cant lose him as my friend, but I miss how much he cared, I think I may have even fallen in love with him. What should I do? I'm desperate 4 advice.

Why does he love me and then ignore me?
There are many reasons he may have withdrawn. He may never tell you. But here are some questions to help you assess the relationship:





Does he declare his love for you to others?


Has he introduced you to all his friends and family?


Does he discuss long term plans with you?


Is he making personal plans that will accomodate you in the long term?





If he's not doing any of those things that doesn't mean he's hopeless. But it does mean he is not wanting to commit to you in those ways now.





Hold him accountable. Make him treat you fairly. And choose whether you wish to make the most of the friendship in its current state. It could develop to more.





"Friends" is a good thing at this point. If you can't figure out how to be a good friend to him, that will be an indication you will have a tough time as closer companions. Do what you CAN do.
Reply:the reason he has become distant is cos he put in all that effort to show that he wants more and you didnt respond the way he wanted. maybe he was waiting for you to make a more physical move or something. and when it didnt happen he felt as though he was wasting his time cos you only saw him as a friend. now he has given up. thats why he is ignoring you.
Reply:In my vast experience being up front always works out best in the long run. I would first tell him that you have something that u need to get off your chest and you would appreciate an honest response also explain that you want to remain friends no matter what. Then lay it on him.
Reply:My personal guess is that he may be afraid of commitment.....
Reply:haha i've been there with my ex-boyfriend ...he told me he loved me i thought our relationship was going great then he stopped answering my calls ignoring me and very thing ..turned out all he wanted was to have sex but i wouldnt do that .....but i just went with the flow we broke up ..now...were great friends and he has another gurlfriend i still love him but i just learned to deal with it and love him as a friend and be there for him whenever he needs me


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